Fixing the Stalled Prayer or Miracle
God wants us to grow up. He wants us to learn how to ask properly. Learning this requires that we take full responsibility, retain utter humility and unconditional love, and muster fearless confidence. Quite often these seem more difficult than they sound.
Fear can get in the way. So can anger. Many other emotions and attitudes can get in the way. Behind all of these is the judgment of “importance,” frequently unspoken and often enough not even realized.
The feeling of importance can overpower us, making us doubt we will accomplish that which we desire.
Such doubts can cling to us like sticky glue or fly paper, making it seem impossible to let go. Like the old 18th century punishment, we feel tarred and feathered. Removing the shameful stickiness used to require weeks of waiting without the right solvent. Those so punished suffered both shame and discomfort. When asking through prayer, importances and doubts can cling to us much like the tar and covering of chicken feathers.
Nothing can seem more important than our mortal lives, especially before we awaken as spiritual children of God. We know no other identity. We feel trapped in a limited and vulnerable life.
If we are ill with a life-threatening illness, we feel the clock ticking on our life. The apparent importance grips us with a fear we cannot shake. If we face imminent death, whether by a murderer, a desperate thief, or a wild beast looking for its next meal, we feel time expand and seconds become rapidly evaporating epochs.
How do we regain control? How do we remove the overwhelm and importance? Failing this, we succumb to the apparently inevitable reality. Succeeding, we gain a foothold in the spiritual domain and ask with a clean, spotless heart for that which we desire.
The Reverse Vector
One powerful technique I found, I call “reverse vector.” This wasn’t my original discovery; I learned it in my days in Scientology. The concept can be modified to fit our current needs. It works like this: Whenever we feel trapped by some unstoppable force, rather than resisting that force, we take charge of it as if we were the driver, instead of the victim.
In martial arts, this looks like taking an attacker’s momentum and using it against them. Sometimes, we can add to their momentum, throwing them off balance. Other times, we can merely redirect their inertia.
With a source of fear, we might imagine in our mind that the object of our fear has done its worst. In fact, we imagine helping our enemy, making our own destruction that much more powerful and glorious. This is not a defeatist attitude. No, instead it is a loving generous attitude giving our enemy whatever they want and doing it without hesitation and full of joy.
This is an attitude similar to that of the Viking Berserkers going into battle. They start with the attitude that they are already dead, so the fear has no more grip on them. Because they are already dead (in attitude), their own lives are no longer important. This makes them far more effective in battle and may end up increasing their survival rate.
But be clear about this. We are after saving life and empowering ourselves. This is the attitude that does just that.
The best attitude is not one of giving up, but quite the opposite. This is the sense of taking control of everything our opponent has done, is now doing, and seems inevitable to do. Do it with joy, knowing that we have lived a glorious life.
Reverse the Vector — Be the Giant
To achieve the same level of unimportance, we might reverse the vector of apparent size. Our source of overwhelm may seem larger than ourselves. We can referse this relationship by picturing ourselves as the size of the building we’re in, the planet we’re on, or even the galaxy within which we reside.
We might get a sense of the size of our own planet Earth, realize that it is tiny compared to Jupiter, then that Jupiter is tiny compared to our own sun, and that our one sun is only a single star amongst 200 billion stars in our Milky Way galaxy. Be bigger than this!
When a bolt won’t turn, no matter how hard we may pull on the wrench (spanner), sometimes going in the opposite direction will break it loose.
Picture in your mind giving up all that you have left—not in the apathy of giving up, but in the joy of wresting control of the situation from this action-reaction, deterministic universe.
Is there a danger, here? What if we slip and miscalculate? Don’t worry. Act as if God will catch us after our body dies. This cultivates certainty and a relaxed humility. Do it well enough and God will acknowledge the intent we hope we’re sending to Him.
Reversing the Vector on Scarcity and Overwhelm
Another barrier to prayer is the sense of scarcity. This can be a feeling of “too little” on any one of a number of vectors or topics. Scarcity of money, health, time, pleasure, feeling, knowledge, forgiveness, energy, mass, space and innumerable others.
Overwhelm—and thus a sense of importance—can be defined as too much or too little of something. For example, too little or too much,
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Too much space can include things like, “too great a distance to the hospital.” Too little energy can include things like, “running out of gas in our car.” And too much mass can include things like, “an avalanche landing on top of us.”
When we realize that we’ve experienced dozens of times just about every disaster we can imagine, then the current disaster does not seem so important anymore. This can allow us to send our prayer with zero doubts, because the desired result is no longer “important.”
Reverse Vector Curing Selfish Focus on Self
All negative emotions, like fear, anger, apathy, especially if prolonged, tend to be selfish. There are exceptions, but they are rare. One such exception was Jesus beating the money changers in the temple.
These emotions are self-centered. They are full of ego and devoid of spirit. Again, exceptions exist, but they are rare. For example, an enlightened one, operating fully in spirit sees a loved one misbehaving and realizes that anger could jolt them out of their mechanistic slavery to his own desires and pleasures.
If we remain worried or afraid, we are being selfish. Reverse the vector. We’ve already looked at the idea of giving ourselves much more of that which we fear. But there’s more we can do.
Another example of this “reverse vector” technique is to help someone else. Stop focusing on the self and put our focus on others who need help, perhaps far more urgently than we do ourselves.
Please let me know your thoughts or questions.